Many people read my last post and asked me how did I manager to cycle in London. They find it scary (no wonder) and stressful (indeed).
My solution is two-fold: framing and intention.
Framing: I consider the bike as an instrument that will get me where I want faster than if I walked or took public transport (as I can go door to door). I am not trying to win a race or competing with anyone... and honestly, it would be quite ridiculous to attempt that with a folding bike. Let the fancy bikes speed ahead!
Intention: I try to be as generous as possible with everyone else in the street. Everyone in London is so goddamn stressed with everything, and rushing everywhere. So obviously they are going to cut corners to get to places faster. In contrast, when I cycle, I'm often where I would be in 40% or less of the time I would spend otherwise, so I have a lot of time to be generous.
Pedestrians will try and cross whenever they can. Motorists will speed ahead when they see an amber light (instead of stopping) which often results in they invading the Advance area for cyclists, or 👏🏼the 👏🏼 whole 👏🏼 zebra 👏🏼 crossing 👏🏼.
I used to get so upset with all this, but as we say in Spanish, if you want to get upset you have two tasks: getting upset and calming down. So I'd rather not get upset, but be more empathetic and generous instead.
I used to go to great efforts to place myself in the Advance area. But after being gifted with a few death threats from other motorists in the past just by placing myself in my designated area (which the Met police ignored very efficiently, I must add), I have decided that I'd rather wait behind the psychopaths' cars. Let them speed ahead! I also leave enough space for cyclists and motorists in a rush to squeeze through the gaps as well. If they want to brave the side mirrors, the drivers spitting through the window while stopped on a traffic light, the doors that open unexpectedly and all that, let them do it! I'll wait behind--or if the traffic is too bad, I'll walk and push the bike on the pavement, and become a pedestrian temporarily, instead of breathing the exhaust fumes from the vehicles.
I also try to be super careful with pedestrians, by riding as slowly as possible in situations where there's a lot of people on the pavements (rush hour!), and basically assuming any of them will jump on the road the minute I least expect them to cross.
I also used to get super upset at this as well ("Are you trying to kill us both!!? do you not see what YOU are doing??!"), but now I just try to imagine that...
- they're tired, or
- they have had a bad night's sleep/a long day, or
- the layout of the street doesn't make it clear enough that they're walking on the cycle lane, or
- they are just overwhelmed, and essentially can't notice when very quiet cyclists approach (in contrast with a noisy motor vehicle).
That said, I'm considering getting one of those laser lights, as they seem to be more effective at announcing my presence than my super bright lights. TFL have installed them on their public hire bikes and I have seen pedestrians noticing them and not crossing the road immediately.
But you know what still gets me sometimes? The mansplainers---which are always a white man on his 40s. He shows up from nowhere, imparts you a lesson on whatever aspect of cycling he deems worthy to illuminate you on, and then leaves before you can even ask them to "get lost" 🙄. I mostly ignore them and give them a blank stare ("is this your voice that I'm hearing or is it just the buzz of the city?"), but some days I commit the error of trying to argue with them, and it's always doomed to fail! 💩
Please note that I am not condoning other people's irresponsible behaviour (jumping lights, crossing on red, etc) and suggesting we all work around that. I do wish people did abide by the rules, because it would prevent accidents, make traffic flows more efficient and make everyone more relaxed, and I also wish TFL improved infrastructure and signalling so flows were safer, more synchronised and efficient, but until all those puzzle pieces fall in place, this is my strategy to cycle without getting upset.